10 coping skills for grief stricken believers

10 coping skills for grief stricken believers

By Sherise Henry

Sudden loss can affect even the most devoted believer.  It’s during those times that Christians have to press into their faith and perhaps lean on those in our lives who provide the light of God to help us bear the sorrow and remember the hope Christ’s life and God’s word provides.  When we think of the word grief thoughts of death often come to mind. But as the blog post Prayer Coach reminds us in a post titled “6 Steps to Deal With Grief”, every major change in life can bring on a form of grief. Some of the events it mentioned were the two biggest - death and divorce.  but also kids going off to college, loss of a job and moving to a new town. Grief the blog states is a common emotion, knowing how to deal with it is important.

Jesus himself suffered grief. We are reminded of that in John 11:35 Jesus wept. He even questioned God on the cross in Mark 15:34 And at the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying Eloi, Eloi, la ma sabach tha ni, which is being interpreted, “My God my God why hast thou forsaken me?” And we know that Jesus Christ suffered deep sorrow in the Garden of Gethsemane as he spoke to his disciples Matthew 26:38 Then said he unto them, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death: tarry ye here and watch with me.

Because Christ was victorious we can lean on his life as an example of how to be obedient and stay the course despite our overwhelming floods of emotion.  Because experiences of grief are so common. Focus on the Family lists the stages of grief that many suffer through.

       1. Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”

      2. Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”

      3 .Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.”

      4. Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”

      5. Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what has happened.”

Grief counselors say it's important to allow yourself to feel the pain of loss.  Cancer.net offers the following tips for Coping with Grief:

  • Allow yourself to experience the pain of loss. As much as it hurts, it is natural and normal to grieve. ...

  • Talk with others. ...

  • Find creative outlets. ...

  • Engage in physical activity. ...

  • Give yourself a break from grieving. ...

  • Maintain a routine. ...

  • Forgive yourself. ...

  • Be patient.

  • Take Care of Yourself

  • Join a Support Group

When your practical coping skills and a biblical understanding of what eternal life means come together it will prayerfully bring to your heart a comfort that is promised in Matthew 5:4 Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted.

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