“A needed time out” advice for parents facing anxiety
By Sherise Henry
“Go to your room”, is an often used directive to children who have past the point of patience with their parents for some act of wrongdoing or defiance. However Christian parents can apply that same directive to themselves when it’s concerning coping skills needed to raise well adjusted children in this ever changing fallen world.
Matthew 6:6 reminds us, "But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly."
A parent that has obtained assurance in God and has handed over worry to the creator displays that confidence to their children whether consciously or subconsciously. Author Cindy McMenamin outlined how worry can model mistrust (In God) to our children in a Crosswalk.com article entitled “3 ways Worry is Ruining Your Parenting. “Worry says to our children and others: "God can't work this out." Therefore, worry is the sin of having no confidence in God. I know that you, like me, aren’t consciously thinking those words when you worry. But I also know you don’t want to display that type of mistrust to your children. How we live will, to a great degree, impact how our children live. What we worry about, they will tend to worry about. On the flip side, where we put our trust will greatly impact how they will choose to handle situations in life, too. Even if they don't imitate your faith or degree of trust, they will know on Whom you rely (or don’t rely) and it speaks louder to them than any lecture. The choices we make – including whether we decide to worry or trust God – will no doubt influence our children's choices well into their adulthood. “ said McMenamin.
Diligence in meeting our own spiritual needs is a vital part in meeting the needs of others including our children. The demon of doubt and fear moves subtly and can creep into our actions and responses without you being fully aware. Faithfulness to our time with God can be likened to a cell phone and its charger. Sure you can make calls receive, texts and browse the internet even if your phone is only 20 per cent charged. But when you’ve plugged into the creator and have had his energy ignite your life force. You have an assurance that you can go throughout your day and its many demands without the fear of losing power or being rendered incapable of functioning due to lack of connection.
God’s ability as God the Father provides us the ultimate example of parenting. Everything we need to raise healthy children is also a need of our own and is given to us by God the Father. Our ability to read, learn and grown under his tutorship requires a “time out” from the secular world around us at times.
Growing in faith requires an effort on our part to adjust our thinking to accept a Christ like light in a dark condemning world. Balancing the view in these two worlds require insight, revelation and a humility. We should never feel so confident in our Christian walk that we begin to ignore our private lessons in the room with our Great Parent. May everyone reading this reach for God even in confident times to keep the candle burning and trimmed for God’s light to shine through us and into those watching, including our children.