Does Your Marriage Have a 7th Day?
Today is officially "Bob & Linda Day" in the Kuebler neighborhood. We take one day a week to concentrate on our love for each other. Phones and computers are kept to a minimum and chores are shared together. Planning one day per week to be a marriage enhancement day is sometimes a struggle.
On the seventh day, God rested. Everybody needs a rest or you'll get burned out. Marriage can very easily get burned out when the burning flames of love are smoldering under the oppressions of daily life. You might be changing diapers on a baby or an adult suffering from dementia. You might have an out of control teenager. You might have a daughter who just told you she's pregnant. You may have a terminal disease. The list of life interruptions grows everyday, but you need to persevere in your attempt to rest.
Planning one day a week to rest (or rejuvenate your marriage) sounds hard. It is hard if you think legalistically. Right now I'm writing this article on what was originally scheduled as "Bob & Linda Day." We have shifted our "Day" to tomorrow for several reasons. The biggest reason is that tomorrow is Linda's birthday. Another reason is that the young men in our ministry called BWAP have decided that they want their Leadership Bible Study to be on Friday evenings.
Being flexible while still focusing on your goal of rejuvenating your marriage is the key. Don't get stuck on one pre-scheduled day every week. Grab the time that you can. Seize the moment! Maybe you only have a couple of hours each week to start with - maximize them and make a commitment to your marriage and family. Study the person you are married to. Make a list of likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses and habits. Pay special attention to his unique gifts from God. Each of us has a purpose within the will of God. Your ultimate role in marriage is to lift up your spouse up into the glory of God's purpose for her life.
R - Replenish your marriage through intentional acts of grace.
E - Esteem is the act of making someone feel respected and admired.
S - Sacrifice your own wants and needs for the good of your marriage.
T - Talking is sometimes listening. Love speaks loudest by simply being present.
"For I have given rest to the weary and joy to the sorrowing." Jeremiah 31:25 NLT
"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit [through factional motives, or strife], but with [an attitude of] humility [being neither arrogant nor self-righteous], regard others as more important than yourselves." Philippians 2:3 (AMP)
"Husbands, love your wives [seek the highest good for her and surround her with a caring, unselfish love], just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify the church, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word [of God], so that [in turn] He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy [set apart for God] and blameless." Ephesians 5:25-27 (AMP)
"Three days later, they found Him in the [court of the] temple, sitting among the teachers, both listening to them and asking them questions." Luke 2:46 (AMP)
Be intentional in all your relationships, especially your marriage. Don't wait, start now - ask yourself; "How can I be intentional in refreshing and restoring my marriage by creating green pastures with still and quiet waters?"
Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody. Jesus loves you and so do we.