Discover What You Don't Know But Need To Know.
What you don’t know but need to KNOW!
I was recently speaking with a young man about some of his life experiences, both his success and failures. I just took on the life coaching role in his life and we are in the ‘getting to know you stage’. Prior to becoming his coach, I heard several positive and a few negative descriptions about his behavior and decision making. One positive characteristic is that he is very talented and has an abundance of potential. After conversing with him, I realized what my greatest challenge would be while coaching him.
Prepackaged with Power
The truth is, there is not a person born into this earth that does not have an abundance of potential. Everyone was prepackaged with an explosive ability to create and produce the life they were destined to live. So my philosophy as a coach is, it is not a matter of potential, capability or capacity to accomplish what one has set out to do, it comes down to assessing the individual characteristics of the situation, then applying simple but powerful truths and principles to release the abundance of potential treasured inside of the person. With this young man, as with most of my coaching assignments, my initial challenge is getting them to embrace the giftedness and greatness which they already possess. I know that may be surprising to you, but believe it or not, one of the toughest things to do as a destiny life coach is to get someone to recognize certain characteristics and attributes about themselves. Even more surprising, and this may shock you, the things I initially get people recognize first and foremost is their strengths and qualities that will enable them to fulfill their dreams.
One of the down sides to today’s parenting culture is the negativity that they speak into the lives of their children. Instead of speaking vibrantly and positive to their children, they speak listlessly and degradingly. Our children will rise to the expectations and prophetic utterances we speak into them. If they are given the proper nurturing and encouragement, they will live up to the standard Father God has for them.
Losing the Limitation
The other side to that coin is, children (people) will also live within the framework of the limitations we set in their heart and mind. What they hear and see in abundance is what they will gravitate toward achieving. Unfortunately, this young man grew up in a culture that was abundantly negative and limiting for his growth toward maximizing his potential. After spending some time with him in his home and social environment, I discerned immediately what this particular coaching would need. I can now put the plan of attack together.
Gleaning from my PRO experience
Being a former professional football player, I like to use football concepts while coaching my clients. In football, you get four downs to gain ten yards in order to get a new set of four downs to get ten more yards. The objective is to do this all the way down the hundred yard field until you get to the end zone. Once you reach the end zone you get what’s called a touchdown and six points will be added to your score. My first play of a coaching assignment is usually to get the individual to embrace the importance of Knowing. (Knowledge is the currency of today. Specifically, how-to-knowledge is what everyone is seeking.) Knowing is the essential quality that will enable them to overcome obstacles and win in life. There has to be a strong desire to know one’s strengths and weaknesses in order to apply them and achieve outcomes. One must have a disdain for ignorance, a hatred for not knowing and a willingness to do whatever is necessary to gain the essential knowledge to apprehend the victory. This mentality toward being a learner reminds me of the God we serve. You will be astounded at the position God takes against us being ignorant of essential knowledge. In the book of Hosea, he says my people come to live destructive and unproductive lives because we lack the desire for knowledge. Because this attitude for knowledge prevails, then the destructive and impoverished life will be your outcome. Don’t be one that lives a frustrating and disappointing life due to you not desiring the necessary knowledge to be the winner God called you to be. Needless to say, this young man came into the awareness of his giftsets and is on his way to being the man God has called him to be and scoring touchdowns. The same will be true for anyone that comes into the how-to-knowledge that is waiting to be found. Discover and score!